Pride
This year Pride will be like no other. Every Pride event and parade has been cancelled. Many cities are holding virtual Pride events. I love Pride. I love the month of June, even though we don’t celebrate Pride where I live until August. I love all the Pride gear,...
You are amazing!
You are amazing, you know. You are an expert at multi-tasking. You work from home and school your kids. You take care of yourself and your family. You entertain your children and sometimes, your spouse. You manage to cook and clean and do art projects. You listen to...
Stop calling it gay marriage
Back in 2008 when I was working to defeat Proposition 8 on the California Ballot, we all talked about gay marriage. It didn’t seem any big deal at the time and not for many years afterward. We were fighting for our gay citizens to have the right to marry so gay...
We all make mistakes
As parents, we all make mistakes. No one gave us a user manual before we had our children. We learn from what we see and experience. At least that was true for me. I didn’t like what I saw in how I was parented, and I swore I would never do what my mother or father...
Moms of LGBTQ kids are the best!
Indeed, moms of LGBTQ kids are the best. For some, their child coming out was no big deal. For others, it was about reconstructing all they’d learned about what it meant to be LGBTQ. For all of us, we love our kids beyond measure. For some of us, it meant rearranging...
What do I do about sleepovers?
My son was 20 when he came out. His brother was 18. I didn’t have a problem with my younger son having a girl sleep over. My feeling was he was going to have sex one way or another and I’d rather he be safe at home. I know not all parents feel that way, but it was how...
When a child comes out
When a child comes out, parents have different reactions. Some celebrate it. For most, there is some stress, fear, or grief. How we deal with out feelings can make a huge difference for us and for our families. I'm not an expert or a therapist. I am the mother of a...
What’s your number one tip to the parent of an LGBTQ child
I recently asked this question on my public Facebook pages: "What's your number one tip to the parent of an LGBTQ child who just came out?" The answers were not surprising and heartening to read. There are so many amazing parents out there and they inspire me. Here...
Why pronouns matter
I recently started listing my pronouns on my emails and my social media accounts. Some people might think it’s obvious. I’m not transgender, why should I list my pronouns? I guess it’s obvious because I’ve identified as female all my life. I think I look female. I...
It’s time for the holidays!
Thanksgiving is over and many of us are getting ready for the holidays. Some are preparing for Christmas, some for Chanukah, some for Kwanza and some for the winter solstice. For many of us it’s a time of excitement and joy and even presents! I can’t help but think of...
A checklist for parents of a LGBTQ teen
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