I remember when marriage equality was first starting to happen. It was something I felt passionate about. I saw my younger son easily get married. They just got a license and got married. No issues. Why? Because they were a heterosexual couple.
But my older son, who had been with his partner for many more years, couldn’t get married because they were a same-sex couple. That really got my mom hackles up. It wasn’t fair and it wasn’t right.
I became a marriage equality activist in my own way. I saw how easy it was for the opponents to dismiss same-sex couples and the LGBT community as wackos and worse. But it was much harder to dismiss a mother fighting for the rights of her child.
When Proposition 8 was on the ballot in California, the most effective ads against it were from parents of gay and lesbian children.
Today I am seeing the same happen in transgender rights. There are a lot of allies fighting for transgender rights and they do make a difference. The biggest difference I see is the moms who are on the front lines.
These moms are open and public and vocal. They argue before school boards, city and county councils, state houses, and lobby congress. They leave themselves open to criticism, hate speech and death threats. They do this because they are fighting for the rights of their children to exist and their authentic selves. They are some of the bravest people I know.
Moms make a difference and the moms of transgender kids will be the ones that turn the tide.