What is bisexuality? The dictionary says it is “sexual attraction to both men and women..,”
The Bisexual Resource Center says: “Bisexuality is a diverse sexual orientation, because people within the bi+ community define it in various ways. Some identify as bisexual, while others use pansexual, queer, fluid, or no label at all to describe their attractions to more than one gender.”
There is a lot of misunderstanding about bisexuality. Many believe that bisexuals are promiscuous, unable to maintain a relationship with a single person, with just one gender. They believe if a person is bisexual, by definition, they are having sex with both men and women. While that may be true for some, it is not true for everyone.
I’ve known bisexuals who are in monogamous relationships, whether with the same or opposite gender. I’ve also know people who have a relationship with a man and another with a woman, being monogamous with each. What I mean by that is that those are each exclusive relationships with a person of that gender. For example, a bisexual woman may be in a long-term marriage and have a long-term girlfriend as well. Each partner knows about the other.
Others are in long term relationships or marriages with one partner, forgoing any other relationships. It doesn’t mean they are no longer bisexual if they are in a long-term relationship with either a same-sex or opposite-sex partner. They are choosing to be in an exclusive relationship with the person they fell in love with.
Personally I’m a monogamous person. I imagine if I were bisexual, I would be in a relationship with only one person at a time, whether that person was male or female or non-binary.
Bisexuality is real. It is not a phase until a person decides whether they are gay or straight. Like one who is gay or straight, it just who a person is.