The American Family Association’s Bryan Fischer said if one of his children came out to him as gay, he “would love them unconditionally; I would appeal to them to make different choices with their sexuality.”
Right off the bat, it’s clear he doesn’t get what it means to be gay. He’s assuming it’s a choice and one can just chooses to be gay. Did he choose to be heterosexual? Of course not – he was born that way. He went on to say, “I would appeal to them not to go down that road because it’s a road of destruction and death but I would love them unconditionally.”
I’m sorry, but in my book unconditional love comes with acceptance and embracing the whole of the person standing in front of you. That is not a message of acceptance. I’m not gay and I can’t really imagine what it would be like to hear that from a parent. Perhaps one of my readers will share their story. But I am the mom of a gay son and I know that unconditional love means that I accept him just as he is. Period. And I love him for that. If you’re a parent struggling to accept your LGBT child, download your complimentary copy of The A.C.C.E.P.T.™ Manifesto with strategies to help you build a bridge back to acceptance and understanding.
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