Today is Christmas. Merry Christmas to all who celebrate – in whatever fashion you do. For many families with LGBT children today may be a day of stress and unhappiness. Perhaps a young person recently came out and his or her parents are struggling with acceptance. Maybe it’s just adjusting their expectations of who they thought their child would turn out to be. Maybe they are struggling to reconcile their religious beliefs with the knowledge that the child they love is gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. And it may be an adult child going home to visit mom and dad and not being able to bring the love of their life because there is no acceptance in their home. For others, going home is not even an option.
I don’t assume to know much about Christianity. I am Jewish after all! One of my friends recently posted a blog on my Facebook wall, What You Believe About Homosexuality Doesn’t Matter by a Youth Pastor. It’s worth reading but to capsulize, the author writes about the suicide rate among gay youth and that what really does matter is that kid’s lives are at stake. He goes on to say, “When faced with the choice between being theologically correct…as if this is even possible…and being morally responsible, I’ll go with morally responsible every time… We no longer have the luxury to consider the original meaning of Paul’s letter to the Corinthian church. We are now faced with the reality that there are lives at stake.”
On this Christmas day, I think Jesus would want us to love our children, no matter what. Everything else stems from that place – the place of love. If you are a parent struggling with acceptance, just for today, connect with the love you have in your heart for your child and let everything else go. What better gift can you give?
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