What if your son were gay?
What if your son were gay? Imagine asking yourself that question when he was first born or just a toddler. I asked myself that question when my son was three years old. I remember telling his father, “I don’t care if he marries someone of another religion or race, but...
What Chanukah Means to Me
We are in the middle of the 8 days of Chanukah. Tonight, we light the 4th candle. Chanukah is really a minor holiday in the Jewish religion. It commemorates the miracle of the oil. When the Maccabees rededicated the Temple, they only had enough oil for one day. One of...
Holidays
With Thanksgiving just past and holidays approaching, I think a lot about LGBTQ people who don’t have family to spend the holidays with. It breaks my heart. I can’t imagine the sadness at a young person’s first holiday without their parents, siblings and extended...
Thankful
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving here in the United States. This has been a year of changes for me and I am so thankful. I’m thankful to live in a state filled with natural beauty. I’m thankful to live only ½ mile from my older son and to see him as often as I do. For the 29...
When their child first came out
I recently asked the parents in my secret Facebook group what their first thoughts were when their child first came out. Nothing they said surprised me. It always amazes me how similar our stories are. So many of us were surprised, having no idea that our child was...
We will not be erased
That has become a rallying cry for the Transgender community since the Trump administration decided to consider narrowly defining gender as a biological, immutable condition determined by genitalia at birth. Just Google “we will not be erased” and it’s amazing the...
Conference on Queer Youth
I attended the Carolina Conference on Queer Youth a little over a week ago. I want to share some of what I learned. Pansexuality I thought I understood what pansexuality was and the difference between it and bisexuality but I got a lot clearer at this workshop. This...
Are you anxious about your LGBTQ child?
Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength. Charles Spurgeon This is a quote I can meditate on for a long time and find layers of meaning. For parents of LGBTQ kids, especially those who only recently found out their child...
Love is the answer
This week I’ve been thinking a lot about parents who struggle to accept their LGBTQ kids and those who don’t. What is that they have in common? They love their child and they know that in the depth of their heart. That love is what guides them, even when they make...
Now, it’s up to you
I’ve talked about this before and it’s not something I’m proud of. When my son came out, I turned to his younger brother and said, “Now, it’s up to you.” They both knew what I meant. It was not up to my younger son to make me a grandmother – as if this was his...
A checklist for parents of a LGBTQ teen
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