When their child first came out
I recently asked the parents in my secret Facebook group what their first thoughts were when their child first came out. Nothing they said surprised me. It always amazes me how similar our stories are. So many of us were surprised, having no idea that our child was...
We will not be erased
That has become a rallying cry for the Transgender community since the Trump administration decided to consider narrowly defining gender as a biological, immutable condition determined by genitalia at birth. Just Google “we will not be erased” and it’s amazing the...
Conference on Queer Youth
I attended the Carolina Conference on Queer Youth a little over a week ago. I want to share some of what I learned. Pansexuality I thought I understood what pansexuality was and the difference between it and bisexuality but I got a lot clearer at this workshop. This...
Are you anxious about your LGBTQ child?
Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength. Charles Spurgeon This is a quote I can meditate on for a long time and find layers of meaning. For parents of LGBTQ kids, especially those who only recently found out their child...
Love is the answer
This week I’ve been thinking a lot about parents who struggle to accept their LGBTQ kids and those who don’t. What is that they have in common? They love their child and they know that in the depth of their heart. That love is what guides them, even when they make...
Now, it’s up to you
I’ve talked about this before and it’s not something I’m proud of. When my son came out, I turned to his younger brother and said, “Now, it’s up to you.” They both knew what I meant. It was not up to my younger son to make me a grandmother – as if this was his...
It gets better for parents too!
The last couple of weeks I’ve shared the story of my gay son, his coming out to me and my feelings and reactions. Today I want to tell you that it gets better for parents too! A parent’s reaction to a child’s coming out runs the gamut. Some are 100% supportive from...
If he were gay
I look at this picture of me with my boys and remember just how much I loved them. I also remember right about this time saying to their father, “I don’t care if Rick marries someone of a different race or religion but I don’t think I could handle it if he were gay.”...
Mom, I’m gay
The words I suspected I’d hear. The words I didn’t want to hear. “Mom, I’m gay.” For the month before hearing those words, I fretted and dreaded what he was going to tell me. In my heart, I knew he was gay and I knew that was what he would say. But I so hoped I was...
Why are people so afraid?
Why are people so afraid? What are they afraid of? I just don’t understand the vitriol aimed toward the LGBTQ community, here and around the world. I just read about two women caned in Malaysia. I read too often about another murder of a transgender woman. I know...
A checklist for parents of a LGBTQ teen
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