10 Easy Steps
I have two children, and three years ago my older child transitioned to be his true authentic self. A year later, my younger child transitioned to be her true authentic self. So, I was the mom to a daughter and son, and now I’m a mom to a son...
The journey
What is the journey like for a parent whose child comes out as LGBTQ? There is no one journey a parent takes. We all have our own journey. For me, the journey continues, even 30 years after my son came out. When he first told me he was gay, I said and did all the...
Parental Guilt – What’s the Point?
“Guilt is a useless feeling. It's never enough to make you change direction--only enough to make you useless.” - Daniel Nayeri, Another Faust What parent hasn’t made mistakes? None of us are perfect, that’s for sure. I don’t know about you, but when I had my children,...
Queer
I recently asked my Facebook community what queer meant to them. I was saddened by some of their answers. Some recounted the times it was used to taunt. Others talked about it’s older meaning of being odd and didn’t feel that was appropriate for someone who is gay. I...
Love always wins
“I’d rather have a live daughter than a dead son.” Those were the words of Jeanette Renee, mother of Jazz Jennings, on a recent interview. I’ve hear these words before from other parents of transgender kids when asked about learning to accept their son is their...
Using they, them, theirs as singular
What is the issue with using they, them, theirs as singular pronouns? I just don’t get it. Don’t get me wrong. I have my grammar pet peeves and one is the misuse of pronouns such as he, him, her, she, me and I. But this to respect someone’s chosen pronoun? What...
Happy New Year!
It’s 2019 already. Where has the time gone? Happy New Year! This has been a remarkable year for me, one of dreams come true. I don’t have a lot of big dreams and the ones that materialized I never thought would. That’s a great lesson for me. I remember in the months...
Christmas Gratitude
Yesterday was Christmas. Most of you know that I’m Jewish and so don’t celebrate Christmas at home but I do have Christmas traditions. We are visiting California, where we lived for the past 29 years (not counting this last year since we left). We spent Christmas eve...
What’s it like now?
My son came out almost 30 years ago. I’ve written a lot about what it was like then, how I felt and how I reacted. What’s it like now, 30 years later? It is so different. I no longer think about his safety every day. I don’t worry any more. He has shown himself to be...
What if your son were gay?
What if your son were gay? Imagine asking yourself that question when he was first born or just a toddler. I asked myself that question when my son was three years old. I remember telling his father, “I don’t care if he marries someone of another religion or race, but...
A checklist for parents of a LGBTQ teen
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