Love is the answer
This week I’ve been thinking a lot about parents who struggle to accept their LGBTQ kids and those who don’t. What is that they have in common? They love their child and they know that in the depth of their heart. That love is what guides them, even when they make...
Now, it’s up to you
I’ve talked about this before and it’s not something I’m proud of. When my son came out, I turned to his younger brother and said, “Now, it’s up to you.” They both knew what I meant. It was not up to my younger son to make me a grandmother – as if this was his...
It gets better for parents too!
The last couple of weeks I’ve shared the story of my gay son, his coming out to me and my feelings and reactions. Today I want to tell you that it gets better for parents too! A parent’s reaction to a child’s coming out runs the gamut. Some are 100% supportive from...
If he were gay
I look at this picture of me with my boys and remember just how much I loved them. I also remember right about this time saying to their father, “I don’t care if Rick marries someone of a different race or religion but I don’t think I could handle it if he were gay.”...
Mom, I’m gay
The words I suspected I’d hear. The words I didn’t want to hear. “Mom, I’m gay.” For the month before hearing those words, I fretted and dreaded what he was going to tell me. In my heart, I knew he was gay and I knew that was what he would say. But I so hoped I was...
Why are people so afraid?
Why are people so afraid? What are they afraid of? I just don’t understand the vitriol aimed toward the LGBTQ community, here and around the world. I just read about two women caned in Malaysia. I read too often about another murder of a transgender woman. I know...
Celebrating my birthday
My birthday is tomorrow. I will be 70 years old. This past weekend we had a party celebrating my birthday. When we moved to Northern California from Los Angeles 30 years ago, I was just turning 40. It was a significant birthday and I wanted to have a party but I knew...
Charlotte Pride
I marched in Charlotte Pride this past weekend and it was quite the experience! Joe and I marched with out good friends, Jim and Jeanie and with Charlotte PFLAG. I’ve marched in Pride parades before, mostly in San Francisco. This was a very different experience for...
Support
I’ve been reading stories on Facebook about kids who do not have family support. One was a young person who came out to their mother and was promptly taken to the pastor and then to a Christian counselor and then attempted suicide. The other was about an extended...
Giving Support makes a difference!
I asked this question in my private Facebook group for parents of LGBTQ kids: How has giving support and encouragement helped and supported you? Here are some of the responses I received, reprinted with permission. “I feel I speak out in support of our LGBT to the...
A checklist for parents of a LGBTQ teen
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