That’s why I prepared a checklist for parents who want to come out. Here are some of the tips included:
- First, become comfortable with being the parent of an LGBTQ teen.
It’s important that you figure out how you feel about being the parent of an LGBTQ teen. It’s important that you look at all the emotions and reactions – the good, bad and ugly! You may have a friend you can trust to help. You may need to see a therapist or a coach who specializes in working with parents of LGBTQ teens. Whatever your feelings, they are valid for you in this moment. And they may not be conducive to a healthy, happy relationship with your LGBTQ teen.
- It’s your choice when to come out.
For some of us, we are ready before our teens are ready to come out. It is up to them when it is okay for us, as parents, to tell our extended family and friends. For other parents, our teen is out and proud and doesn’t care who knows, but we do. We are not ready to shout it from the rooftops. This is a negotiation. We have to be careful not to make our teen feel we are ashamed of their being LGBTQ in any way, just that we need some time to process and figure out how we are going to tell people before we do.
- Let go of expectations of how others will react.
People surprise us all the time. Sometimes those we thought would be non-accepting are the ones who have no problem with our LGBTQ teen. Others we thought would understand and be supportive are not.
- Have a support system in place.
Before the parent starts coming out to their own friends and family, it’s important to have a support system in place. There are many ways to find support.
There are 10 Tips and you can get them HERE
I’d love to know what you think of the tips and what you would add.