Happy New Year! Happy 2018 (a bit early)! I can’t believe the new year is right around the corner! I hope you’re having a great holiday season, so far. I’m well aware that the holidays are a struggle for too many LGBTQ kids and parents of LGBTQ kids. Some kids are rejected by their families and some parents are rejected by their extended families. I hope all found some place to feel loved and accepted.
As I look back on 2017, I see what a year of change it’s been for me. Early in the year, my husband and I decided to move to North Carolina. We spent a month there this past summer and bought a house. At our age, most people are downsizing. We are upsizing – not because that was our goal, but because we found the house that met all the criteria of my dream house and met my husband’s criteria for a beautiful back yard. We came home and had about half of our house packed up and put in storage in anticipation of selling the house. We also started updating both of the bathrooms. Then we decided to rent our current house rather than sell it. By then, I’d given away a lot of things I thought I’d just replace in NC.
Another milestone this year was my younger grandson’s Bar Mitzvah. For those who don’t know, it’s very much a coming of age for a Jewish boy. He read from the Torah (the Jewish Bible) and in Jewish tradition, he is now a man in the sense of being able to read Torah and be considered to make a minyan. A minyan is 10 Jewish people (in Orthodox Judaism, it has to be 10 men) which are required to pray certain prayers.
As I look forward to 2018, I’m a little anxious. Moving across the country and leaving behind all that I know and is familiar to me is a bit daunting. I wonder how well I’ll adjust, how hard it will be. Right now, I’m in do mode. There is a lot to do! That allows me to put off the sadness and any other emotion I have about moving. Once I’m there and once most is done, I suspect it will hit me. I’m lucky in that I have a very supportive husband. We agree that we are going to be there for each other as we each go through the emotions that will inevitably come up.
My goal for 2018 is to create new communities, new traditions, and to find my place in my new home. What are your goals for 2018?