Funny thing about an LGBTQ child – they are still kids with all the characteristics and foibles of all kids, whatever their age and whatever their sexual orientation or gender identity. They do great in school or they get by or they struggle, like all kids. Some play sports, some are into music, some play instruments. The only difference is – there is no difference.
Sexual orientation and gender identity is just a small part of who they are as people. Just like with you and me. Being straight and cisgender doesn’t define me anymore than have brown eyes and curly hair does. It’s just a part of who I am. No one makes a big deal about one’s eye color or type of hair. We all accept that is how we were born. The same is true for our kids who are LGBTQ. It is just the way they were born and just a part of who they are.
Our LGBTQ kids are smart and funny, amazing, outstanding, perfect, anxious, brave, fierce, miracles, caring, a gift, a shining light, hilarious, bright, strong, witty, loving, sensitive, passionate, advocates, courageous, autistic, gentle, polite, spiritual, religious, kind, awesome, loved, artistic, nerdy.
Those are just a few of the adjectives we can use to describe our LGBTQ children. In fact, those are adjectives we can use to describe any of our children. Those characteristics and more make up the who person who is the child we love. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, pansexual, gender queer, non-conforming – those terms don’t even make the list!