Gavin GrimmYesterday, the Supreme Court refused to hear the case of Gavin Grimm, a high school senior who wants nothing more than to be able to use the restroom in his school and not have to go to the Nurse’s office every time he wants to pee. The refusal by the Supreme Court means this case won’t be resolved while he is still in school. He continues his fight, along with the ACLU, to help other kids so they don’t have to go through what he’s gone through.

I just don’t understand what the big deal is. Cisgender children are not at risk if a transgender child uses the bathroom. This who transgender bathroom issue totally baffles me. There is not one instance that I’m aware of where a transgender person hurt anyone in a bathroom. But there are plenty of cases of the opposite. The people who are at risk in this debate are the transgender people, not you and me. Frankly, I don’t want men in my public restrooms. I’ve felt that way about privacy since I was a young child. I remember in pre-school, they had bathrooms that both the boys and girls used together. I was never comfortable with that. To me, a transgender man is just that – a man. I don’t want him in my bathroom. A transgender woman is just that – a woman. I don’t care what’s between her legs. I don’t care if she’s had gender confirmation surgery. That’s none of my business. And what she does in her stall is none of my business either, any more than it’s her business what I’m doing.

I had a very lengthy discussion on my Facebook wall with a woman who considers herself conservative and expressed a lot of concern for her daughter being in the changing room or bathroom with a “boy.” She was open to learning and I think she got quite an education from those who are transgender or parent transgender kids. I thought she was at least beginning to understand but she could not see beyond a personal genitals. If a transgender girl still has a penis (and she will until she is old enough for gender confirmation surgery, should she choose that), this women still considers her a boy. It was so frustrating for me. I understand parents being concerned for their child’s safety and wanting to protect them. That’s just pure parental instinct. But to close your mind and refuse the evidence is beyond me.

The idea that the use of restrooms in public place and schools is a state’s rights issue is beyond me. Since when do states get to decide who deserves civil rights and who doesn’t? This was the same argument the right used to deny marriage equality. Well, that failed and now it’s the transgender community that is being attacked. Oh yeah, they haven’t given up on marriage equality either. They’re calling that religious freedom. The freedom to discriminate based on religion. Substitute African Americans or Jews. Would we allow the religious freedom to discriminate against them? We did for a long time but no longer.

It’s time for America to wake up to the reality of transgender people. The truth about who they are. Let them try walking in a transgender person’s shoes for a while. I’d love to see what lessons they learn.