On this week when we celebrated Independence Day, I decided it was a good time to re-post this blog I wrote several years ago when I was blogging about Marriage Equality. It’s not that I’m no longer passionate about this issue. I truly am as evidenced by my being a founder at The All Family Project. You can like our page at Facebook! Here’s the post:
I’m a mother. I have two sons. Does a mother love her children equally? When my first son was born, I was only 20 years old – way too young to be a mother and too young to know it! 40 years later I can still remember the wonder of the new life that was being created inside my womb, the thrill of feeling him kick for the first time. That love is pretty special.
Twenty two months later my second son was born. Could I really love another child as much? Did I have that much love to give? Love is a funny thing – the heart is too. It grew to the size needed to hold all the love I had for both my sons.
They grew up and at the age of 20 (funny, the age I was when he was born!), my older son told me he was gay. Had he changed suddenly? Had my love for him changed? My ideas of what his life would be like certainly had to change. I had some adjusting to do.
In the ensuing years, I’ve talked to some folks whose parents rejected them on learning of their sexual orientation. This has always baffled me. They loved them the day before – finding out their child was gay caused their love to cease? Is this child no longer equal to their other children?
Our constitution says all men are created equal, yet we have a history of treating people unequally. Today, it’s the LGBT community. What is it about being LGBT that makes one unequal to the rest of us? I love my sons equally and passionately. They deserve the same treatment under the law.